By Laura Dheygers, Energy Journeys
In the work I do with clients, I’ve seen this again and again: financial struggles are rarely only about strategy, budgeting, or income level. Of course, practical tools matter, but beneath the numbers lies a relationship.
Your relationship with money.
This relationship is shaped by culture, community, family history, early experiences, loyalty patterns, and unconscious beliefs we didn’t even know we were carrying.
Many of us inherited more than eye colour. We also inherited emotional attitudes not only toward money, scarcity, and hardship but also toward success and wealth. Perhaps it’s a belief that “people like us don’t earn more than this,” or that “we have to fight for money.”
Previous generations and their impact
These patterns often originate in previous generations who experienced war, loss, bankruptcy, injustice, sudden wealth followed by collapse. Even if we don’t know the full story, our nervous system can still be loyal to it, and it will unconsciously repeat the story or find a way to balance it.
In systemic work, we approach money not as an external resource but as something embedded in a web of relationships: with our parents, our ancestors, and our sense of belonging.
For example, if a parent struggled financially, a child may unconsciously limit their own earning capacity out of loyalty: “If you didn’t have more, I won’t have more either.” Not as a conscious decision, but as a deep, embodied bond, through which people can experience their success while feeling guilty about it.
When we bring these dynamics into awareness, something shifts. The stuck emotions are released, and a healing movement takes place.
We begin to see that our financial blocks are not personal failures. They are intelligent adaptations. At some point, they helped us stay connected, safe, or accepted. They helped us belong.
The problem is that what once protected us may now be limiting us.
This is why mindset work alone is often not enough. You can repeat affirmations about abundance every morning, but if your system is still entangled in inherited fear or guilt, progress will feel heavy and inconsistent.
Real change happens when we respectfully acknowledge the past, give back what does not belong to us, and allow ourselves to step into a different position.
A healthy relationship with money is grounded and calm.
It is not driven by panic or superiority. It allows receiving without shame and giving without self-sacrifice. It understands that earning well does not betray anyone. In fact, it can honour those who came before us by transforming the family story’s trajectory.
Systemic work teaches that a healthy relationship with money is necessary for welcoming abundance and having it as a natural state in life.
This process is both practical and deeply human.
We look at patterns.
We explore the types of our relationship with money.
We examine how success feels in the body.
We work with transgenerational entanglements so that they don’t hold us back.
We create new internal agreements that support financial clarity and stability.
“What I love most about this work is that when the relationship with money heals, it ripples outward. Decisions become clearer. Boundaries strengthen. Opportunities feel less threatening. Instead of chasing or resisting money, people begin to collaborate with it. By embracing the flow of money, they’re tuning deeper into the Flow of Life.” – Laura
See this link for more information about and registration for the workhop in Amsterdam: https://systemic-ritual.com/release-money-blocks/
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