What Is Soul Loss? Understanding Soul Loss and Soul Retrieval

Many people know the feeling that something is missing inside them, without being able to explain exactly what it is. As if a part of their energy, aliveness, or presence was left somewhere along the way.

In many shamanic traditions, this phenomenon is called soul loss: the idea that parts of our soul can separate from us when experiences become too overwhelming or painful. According to these traditions, the loss of soul parts may contribute to feelings of emptiness, reduced vitality, and sometimes even physical or psychological complaints.


The process of bringing these parts back — soul retrieval — is seen as a way to reconnect with our life force and restore a sense of inner wholeness.

When we speak of the soul in this context, we refer to an immaterial aspect of our being connected to our life energy. This aspect contains emotions, memories, experiences, and feelings. In that sense, the concept resembles what in some spiritual traditions is referred to as the astral body, rather than the concept of the soul as it is described in many religious traditions.

When Soul Parts Are Missing

When a part of the soul has separated, it can feel as if less life energy is available. People sometimes describe this as a feeling that “something is missing.” Energy may flow less freely, inspiration may diminish, and the sense of connection with life may weaken.

When the soul is fully present, a person often appears clear, vibrant, and radiant. When parts are missing, it may feel as if a piece of our inner vitality is no longer directly accessible.

Often — usually unconsciously — we try to find these lost parts again. This can show up in dreams or daydreams, in a search for spiritual or healing practices, or in relationships where we repeatedly recognise something that touches us deeply. Sometimes others mirror precisely those parts of ourselves that we have lost.

This ongoing search can require a great deal of energy.

How Can Soul Parts Become Lost?

According to shamanic traditions, soul parts may separate when a situation becomes too overwhelming, painful, or stressful. It can be understood as a protective mechanism of the psyche.

Soul loss may arise, for example, through:

  • prolonged stress or burnout
  • not living in alignment with your deeper desires or life purpose
  • traumatic or life-changing events
  • the loss of a loved one
  • miscarriage or abortion
  • an accident or surgery
  • sudden shock or intense fear
  • jealousy

Some spiritual traditions also hold the idea that soul parts may temporarily “leave” when an experience is too difficult to endure fully. In this way, the person is protected from overwhelming emotions or experiences.

In certain shamanic traditions, it is also said that a soul part can be taken or “stolen” by another person.

Possible Symptoms of Soul Loss

People experiencing soul loss may recognise some of the following feelings or symptoms:

  • a lack of vitality or joy for life
  • the feeling of not being fully present in life
  • feeling “absent” after a traumatic or impactful event
  • after a breakup, the feeling that part of you is still with the other person
  • dissociation or depersonalisation
  • difficulty remembering certain events
  • persistent feelings of emptiness or depression

Not everyone will experience these signs in the same way, but within shamanic traditions, these experiences are sometimes seen as indications that a part of the soul has withdrawn.

Bringing Back Soul Parts: Soul Retrieval

What is Soul Retrieval?

In shamanism, various rituals and methods exist to restore lost soul parts. This process is known as soul retrieval.

During this process, contact is made with the lost soul part, with the intention of inviting it to return and reintegrate into the person as a whole. The purpose is to restore the connection with one’s life force.

Within the method of Systemic Ritual, it is also possible to make contact with lost soul parts and create space for these parts to return, be welcomed, and reintegrated.

When lost parts of the soul return, this can contribute to a renewed sense of wholeness, vitality, and connection — with yourself, with others, with the earth, and with life as a whole.

In many traditions, soul retrieval is seen as a process of coming home: reconnecting with parts of yourself that were once lost along the way.

Literature:
Ingerman, S. Soul Retrieval. Mending the Fragmented Self.

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Human Beings Are More Than a Physical Body

About the physical, etheric, astral and mental body

Many spiritual and philosophical traditions hold that human beings are more than just physical bodies. In shamanism, anthroposophy, and Hinduism, for example, the human being is seen as composed of several layers or bodies. Exactly which bodies are distinguished varies from tradition to tradition, but the idea that human beings consist of more than matter alone can be found in many cultures.

The physical body is the body we can see and touch. The other bodies are more subtle and cannot be perceived with the naked eye. Yet we can experience and become aware of them, for example, through Systemic Ritual.

Systemic Ritual is a method through which we can experience these different layers of our existence by means of ritual and systemic work. (see /what-is-systemic-ritual/)

All these bodies require care and nourishment. They are constantly active, interwoven with one another and influencing each other. When a disturbance occurs in one body, it affects the others as well.

At the centre of this whole system is a sense of “I” or “me”: our personality. Here we find our consciousness and our capacity for self-reflection. From this place we think, speak and choose our actions. The “I” can reflect, learn, make plans and change itself.

Our personality perceives the different bodies as one coherent whole. It selects and integrates the experiences and information coming from these layers. Only what is meaningful to us reaches our conscious awareness. In this way, our “I” forms the lens through which we perceive reality and interpret the events around us.

In my workshops, I work with the following bodies.


The physical body

The physical body is what we can see and feel. It consists of our skin, muscles, bones and organs, as well as all the neurological and hormonal processes that take place within our body. It is the tangible, material aspect of our existence.


The etheric body

The etheric body can be seen as a fine network of energy pathways. It permeates and surrounds the physical body and supplies our cells with life energy. The meridians referred to in Traditional Chinese Medicine are part of this etheric body.

The physical and etheric bodies can be strengthened through healthy nutrition, physical movement, spending time in nature, breathing exercises, acupuncture, Qi Gong, music and singing.

In people who are chronically ill or dying, the etheric body gradually begins to detach from the physical body. When the etheric body completely leaves the physical body, the physical body ceases to exist. According to various traditions, the etheric body remains present for six to seven days after death, after which this layer also dissolves.


The astral body

The astral body contains our feelings, perceptions, impulses, thoughts and memories. It is the body in which we experience emotions.

The astral body also speaks the language of symbols and dreams. Both nighttime dreams and daydreams take place in this layer of our being.

This body has no fixed form and can change easily. It can even temporarily separate from the physical body and move beyond it.

Through the astral body, we can also pick up the emotions and thoughts of others. It functions somewhat like a tuning fork: it resonates not only with our own inner world but also — usually unconsciously — with what is happening in our surroundings.

The astral body can be strengthened through creative activities such as painting, music or other forms of expression. Consciously recalling memories that evoke love, joy, or gratitude also nourishes this layer.

What we see and experience also has an influence. Witnessing violence or negativity can weaken the astral body. For that reason, it can sometimes be helpful to consciously choose where we direct our attention. Regularly avoiding negative news may, in that sense, be healthier than it is often thought to be.

According to some traditions, the astral body can continue to exist for some time after the death of the physical body. In cases of sudden or unexpected death, this layer may remain connected to the earthly realm for a period of time.


The mental body

The mental body can be understood as the structure that enables thinking. It is not the thinking itself, but the underlying framework in which thoughts, dreams and associations can arise.

Within the mental body, we find our patterns. Patterns are automatic connections between perception, recognition and feeling. Pathways are formed in which past experiences, beliefs and emotions become linked and lead to automatic reactions.

Methods such as Neuro-Linguistic Programming, hypnotherapy and affirmations work with these structures.

The mental body can be strengthened through activities that bring order and structure, such as solving puzzles, organising things, rhythmic exercises or meditation. These activities help bring calmness and clarity to our thinking.


The soul

The soul is our deepest and purest experience of “me”. It is not the ego, but the essential part of ourselves that is timeless and formless.

In many traditions, the soul is also seen as consisting of several layers, such as a personal soul, a family soul, a group soul and a universal soul. I will write more about this in a future blog.

The soul can be nourished through meditation, beautiful music, the experience of beauty and moments of genuine connection with others and with the world around us.


In my workshops, I work with these different layers. Through Systemic Ritual, movement, and focused attention, we can become aware of these bodies, strengthen them, and reconnect them with one another.

When these layers begin to work together in greater harmony, people often experience more calm, vitality and inner space.

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Bronnen:
Aaldijk, K. Voeding voor de ziel. Spiegelbeeld, mei 2007
Van Kampenhout, D. Beelden van de ziel. Over de werking van de ziel in sjamanistische rituelen en familieopstellingen
http://www.ankh-homeopathie.nl/pagina.php?id=16

Money is never just about money.

In the work I do with clients, I’ve seen this again and again: financial struggles are rarely only about strategy, budgeting, or income level. Of course, practical tools matter, but beneath the numbers lies a relationship.

Your relationship with money.

This relationship is shaped by culture, community, family history, early experiences, loyalty patterns, and unconscious beliefs we didn’t even know we were carrying.

Many of us inherited more than eye colour. We also inherited emotional attitudes not only toward money, scarcity, and hardship but also toward success and wealth. Perhaps it’s a belief that “people like us don’t earn more than this,” or that “we have to fight for money.”

Previous generations and their impact

These patterns often originate in previous generations who experienced war, loss, bankruptcy, injustice, sudden wealth followed by collapse. Even if we don’t know the full story, our nervous system can still be loyal to it, and it will unconsciously repeat the story or find a way to balance it.

In systemic work, we approach money not as an external resource but as something embedded in a web of relationships: with our parents, our ancestors, and our sense of belonging.
For example, if a parent struggled financially, a child may unconsciously limit their own earning capacity out of loyalty: “If you didn’t have more, I won’t have more either.” Not as a conscious decision, but as a deep, embodied bond, through which people can experience their success while feeling guilty about it.

When we bring these dynamics into awareness, something shifts. The stuck emotions are released, and a healing movement takes place.
We begin to see that our financial blocks are not personal failures. They are intelligent adaptations. At some point, they helped us stay connected, safe, or accepted. They helped us belong.

The problem is that what once protected us may now be limiting us.

This is why mindset work alone is often not enough. You can repeat affirmations about abundance every morning, but if your system is still entangled in inherited fear or guilt, progress will feel heavy and inconsistent.

Real change happens when we respectfully acknowledge the past, give back what does not belong to us, and allow ourselves to step into a different position.

A healthy relationship with money is grounded and calm.

It is not driven by panic or superiority. It allows receiving without shame and giving without self-sacrifice. It understands that earning well does not betray anyone. In fact, it can honour those who came before us by transforming the family story’s trajectory.

Systemic work teaches that a healthy relationship with money is necessary for welcoming abundance and having it as a natural state in life.

This process is both practical and deeply human.
We look at patterns.
We explore the types of our relationship with money.
We examine how success feels in the body.
We work with transgenerational entanglements so that they don’t hold us back.
We create new internal agreements that support financial clarity and stability.

“What I love most about this work is that when the relationship with money heals, it ripples outward. Decisions become clearer. Boundaries strengthen. Opportunities feel less threatening. Instead of chasing or resisting money, people begin to collaborate with it. By embracing the flow of money, they’re tuning deeper into the Flow of Life.” – Laura

See this link for more information about and registration for the workhop in Amsterdam: https://systemic-ritual.com/release-money-blocks/

Epstein, You and Me: On the Masculine and the Feminine

When we hear the name Jeffrey Epstein, we think of abuse, power, corruption and moral decay. Of a man who was able to exploit young girls for years while a network of influential people looked away. Of elites protecting one another. Of a system that failed.

Jeffrey Epstein is dead.
But the dynamics that enabled him are still alive.

We speak of him as a monster, an exception, a deviation. That is reassuring. Because if he were an exception, then the world is essentially healthy. Then we only need to remove the rotten apple.

But what if Epstein was not an anomaly?
What if he were merely a symptom?
And what if that symptom does not exist only “out there” — but also in you and in me?

To understand that, we have to look beyond individual guilt and examine the forces that shape our culture.

The Masculine and the Feminine – Yin and Yang

When I speak of the masculine and the feminine, I am not referring to men and women. I am speaking of fundamental energies within the human psyche and within civilisation itself. Yin and Yang are more neutral terms for these archetypal forces.

Yang — the archetypal masculine — is goal-oriented, rational, analytical, focused on control, distinction, efficiency, expansion and results. Yang structures, analyses and gives form. Without Yang, there would be no science, no infrastructure, no decisiveness.

Yin — the archetypal feminine — is receptive, relational, intuitive, connected to the whole, to the body, to emotional life, to rhythm and care. Without Yin, there would be no connection, no ethical boundaries, no space for the irrational or the spiritual, no art.

In their healthy form, Yin and Yang complement one another.

Yang creates structure. Yin moves with life.
Yang distinguishes. Yin connects.
Yang acts. Yin feels.

Yang without Yin becomes hard.
Yin without Yang becomes shapeless.

When these two are in balance, wholeness emerges.

When Yang detaches from Yin — purpose detaches from care, power from integrity, efficiency from humanity — a fundamental imbalance arises.

When Yin is not supported and grounded by Yang, it can manifest as feelings of victimhood, avoidance, indecision, passivity or moral superiority without action.

But in the context of abuse of power, the emphasis here lies on Yang without Yin.

A Culture of Yang Dominance

We live in a culture where Yang values dominate: growth, competition, efficiency, scalability, profit maximisation, status, control, manageability and productivity.

These values are not wrong in themselves. They become problematic when they are not balanced by Yin — by reverence for the whole, relational awareness, long-term responsibility and ethics.

A Yang culture without Yin focuses on parts rather than the whole.
It improves products and maximises profits, but does not consider the consequences.
It admires power, yet neglects integrity.

What is an archetypal disconnection at the psychological level, translates, at the societal level, into objectification. The concrete feminine body is reduced to a means, to property.

The consequences of Yang without Yin are visible in colonialism, imperialism, slavery, labour exploitation, ecological depletion, the climate crisis and war. The pattern is the same: expansion without limits. Growth without reflection. Power without integrity.

In a culture where Yin is structurally marginalised — where care, relational intelligence, intuition and long-term accountability are dismissed as “soft” or “irrational” — civilisation may become technically brilliant, yet morally fragile.

That is the soil in which Epstein was able to flourish.

Epstein as a Symptom of Imbalance

According to biographer Barry Levine, Epstein was able to continue his abuse for years because authorities looked the other way. Even after his conviction in 2008, he avoided a severe sentence through a plea deal negotiated by a powerful legal team and was allowed to continue working from his office. After his release, his activities resumed with little interference.

As Levine describes it, Epstein was “a collector of people.” The wealthier and more powerful someone was, the more he sought to bind them to him. Women were used as currency to gain access to influential men. In doing so, he gathered compromising knowledge about many of them. The mutual dependency within such networks made many vulnerable.

Even after his conviction, celebrities continued attending his gatherings. Status and networking appeared more important than moral distance. From such networks came deals, investments, opportunities.

What does that tell us?

That status can become more important than ethics.
That access to power can outweigh the protection of the vulnerable.

This is not merely individual failure. It is a collective failure. That does not absolve individuals of responsibility, but it helps explain how abuse can persist within respected circles. Not everyone is actively committing abuse. But the system valued influence more than integrity.

This stems from a societal structure marked by Yang dominance. A Yang-without-Yin system protects power, protects status — and ultimately protects itself.

When Yang is not restrained by Yin — by care, moral reflection and relational awareness — space opens for exploitation. Not because everyone is evil, but because self-interest outweighs the good of the whole.

Epstein fits this pattern. Girls became means. Networks became currency. Relationships became instrumental. Everything revolved around access, status and control.

Why Blame Is Not Enough

Abuses must be exposed. Perpetrators must be held accountable. That is beyond question.

The danger, however, is that we externalise the problem. We say: “That’s the elites.” “That’s corruption.” “That’s the top.”

But the system does not live only in institutions. It lives in the psyche.

As long as we insist that the problem lies in a single monster, we do not have to examine the underlying dynamic.
As long as we do not ask why networks continue functioning despite warning signs.
Why authorities look away?
Why status outweighs integrity.
Why economic and political interests prioritised over the protection of girls?

As long as that dynamic remains intact, a new “villain” will eventually emerge. Not because evil is inevitable, but because the breeding ground remains.

You and Me

The uncomfortable part is this: the system lives in us.

It shapes what we find impressive.
Whom we admire.
Beauty ideals
What we call success.
How we translate time into money.
How we prioritise comfort over humanity.
How we see land as property rather than as a living ecosystem.
How we undervalue women.

The patriarchal system — or, in archetypal terms, the dominance of unintegrated Yang — is not only political or economic. It is psychological. It lives in our choices, relationships and ambitions. It is not a male trait. It is an energy that can be embodied by both men and women.

Therefore, the solution is not only legal or political.
It is also internal.

Restoring balance between Yin and Yang means:

  • connecting purpose with care;
  • connecting structure with relationship;
  • connecting power with integrity;
  • connecting growth with limits;
  • connecting rationality with intuition.

In a culture where Yin and Yang are in balance, structural exploitation would not find fertile ground. Power would be restrained by care. Networks would function as communities of responsibility.

Epstein was not an anomaly. He was an extreme expression of a deeper imbalance — as were the people around him.

If we truly want such stories to stop repeating themselves under different names and in different forms, we must address the underlying dynamic.

Restoring balance between Yin and Yang is not a policy measure. It is a cultural shift. And cultural change begins in awareness.

It requires systemic reflection:

Where in me thinks control is more important than connection?
Where in me fears exclusion, belonging to groups even when these don’t fit my values?
Where do I use relationships instrumentally?
Where do I admire power without questioning it?
Where do I choose comfort over courage?

This is not an accusation. It is maturation.

When Yin and Yang are integrated within the psyche, inner authority emerges — no longer dependent on external status. Then one can say “no” to a network that drifts into ethical compromise. Then integrity becomes more important than access.

Without that inner shift, every external reform remains fragile.

A slow, radical, collective work.
The work of you.
And of me.
And of us together.

Used source:
https://nos.nl/nieuwsuur/artikel/2603382-is-andrews-arrestatie-begin-van-het-einde-van-de-onaantastbare-epstein-klasse

The direction of the East

The East encompasses the qualities of renewal, contemplation, perception, oversight, and orientation on the world around us.
Suddenly having clear insights is a quality of the East. The East is uninhibited (like a child). Another quality of the East is the ability to regenerate – the East provides recovery, renewal, and “rejuvenation”. Because the East has the quality of being able to perceive sharply – perceiving both the detail and the whole – it also has the power to add structure.

The Wheel of the four directions forms one of the basic ground plans in which a systemic ritual takes place. The Wheel of the four directions works with the qualities of the four cardinal directions, which means no more than the conscious application of the universal cycle of ‘coming’ / ‘being’ / ‘going’ / ‘rest’ and all associated qualities. The Wheel brings order, depth, insight, and balance to the mental, emotional, and soul levels.

The energy of the East is most present in the spring, in the morning, at the waxing moon.
In our personal lives, it is the period of childhood. In the Northeast, the baby is born, and in the Southeast, the adolescent enters the adult world. The East knows the curiosity and the urge to explore, as we can see in children and teenagers.

The “East person”
People with highly developed East qualities may have many ideas, oversee structures well, create conditions, explain things clearly to others, and change things quickly and easily. When you have highly developed East qualities, you are clear, you have an overview, and you are good at planning.
The East has few emotions. “East persons” can therefore appear a bit cool. An “East person” is not the type who gives or wants to receive a long, firm hug.
An East person is future-oriented. This is the opposite of the “West person” who is nostalgic.

Unbalanced East qualities
When the East qualities “overshoot” or when the qualities of the other directions are insufficiently balanced by the East, problems arise. When there is too much focus on structure, this can be at the expense of the other qualities of the East: open-mindedness, creativity and the ability to improvise. Obsessive and compulsive behaviour shows the pathology of the East. Structures take on a life of their own.
Unbalanced East energy can also cause someone to “drown” in ideas. One idea to another arises, but the vision, planning and structure are missing. And nothing is ever done with all those ideas. Or worse, something new is always started up, but never brought to full implementation (the South). In severe form, this can be harmful to someone and his environment and lead to debts, among other things. Such a kind of person can start to lie to others to keep himself unguilty – (not my fault, everyone and everything worked against me, but next week I will have … or I promise you that next week …… ). In the case of lying, the qualities of being creative and being able to see and think of new possibilities are used in a destructive way. Someone with such an unbalanced East energy is incapable of taking real responsibility for his actions and does not have access to the qualities of the South.

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Based on the book The Four Directions by Daan van Kampenhout.
You can order this book from me – email me: susanne@sejhazen.nl

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Time for New Beginnings

On February 4, 2026, the sun stands exactly halfway on its journey from the Tropic of Capricorn to the equator. Astronomically, this marks the precise midpoint between winter and spring. This day is known as a cross-quarter day and is recognised in various traditions as Imbolc or Candlemas.

What Is Imbolc?

Imbolc is traditionally celebrated from the evening of February 1st. The ancient Celtic festival began on January 31st, and similar seasonal celebrations can also be found in Scandinavian traditions.

While Imbolc is often observed at the beginning of February, the true astronomical midpoint in 2026 falls on February 4th. A subtle yet powerful moment. The days are visibly lengthening, and life begins to stir again—quietly, gently. This is the hidden turning point between winter and spring.

A Festival of Light, Purification, and Promise

Imbolc is one of the important seasonal festivals rooted in pre-Christian Celtic traditions, closely connected to the fertility of the earth. Originally, it was a ploughing and sowing festival—a time to prepare the fields for new life, supported by the power of the goddess Brigid.

Imbolc symbolises purification, new beginnings, growth, and the awakening of life after the long winter months. Across cultures, this moment in the year has long been marked by rituals of cleansing and preparation.

This theme of purification is still reflected today in the tradition of spring cleaning during February. Not merely practical, but symbolic: releasing the old and making space for the new. The name of the month itself points to this—februa is Latin for purification. Fasting, too, traditionally belongs to this time of transition.

The word Imbolc is thought to derive from the Old Irish oimelc, meaning “ewe’s milk.” It refers to the first ewes producing milk in preparation for the birth of spring lambs—a tangible sign that the cycle of life is beginning anew.

Later, this ancient festival was absorbed into Christianity and associated with Saint Brigid and Candlemas. Yet its essence remained unchanged: light overcoming darkness, purification, and the promise of growth.

Brigid – Guardian of Fire and Life

Imbolc is inseparably linked to Brigid (or Brighid), the Celtic goddess of fire, smithcraft, healing springs, fertility, and hearth and home. She is the keeper of the sacred flame—both literally and symbolically.

To honour her, homes were ritually cleaned. Not simply to tidy up, but to consciously release what no longer serves and create space for the return of life.

Fire plays a central role during this festival. Candles, hearth fires, and flames symbolise the growing strength of the sun and the awakening life force within nature. It is a celebration of light, hope, and renewal.

Imbolc and the Wheel of the Four Directions

Within the Wheel of the Four Directions, Imbolc falls between Midwinter (the winter solstice) and the Spring Equinox. It marks the true beginning of spring.

On the wheel of the seasons, this moment belongs to the northeast. Within the wheel of life phases, the northeast represents conception—the very first beginning of life.

This is where the spark ignites.
Still fragile. Still tender.
Yet full of potential.

Energetically, this is a powerful time to plant something new. Not through immediate action, but through intention. A vision may arise. First ideas can quietly take shape. What will later bloom begins here.

What Do You Wish to Grow?

This time of year invites us into stillness.
Into listening for what wants to awaken within us.

What do you wish to manifest this year?
Which intention deserves your care, attention, and protection, so it may grow into something tangible in the months ahead?

Just as the earth prepares for new life, we too are invited to create space.
By letting go of what no longer serves.
By welcoming the light.
And by trusting the natural rhythm of growth.

A Simple Ritual for New Beginnings

This ritual can be done around early February, at a moment that feels right for you.

1. Light a candle
Choose a white or soft yellow candle if possible. Take a moment to connect with the light and the returning sun.

2. Cleanse your space
You can do this by opening a window, tidying up, or burning sage, palo santo, or any herb that feels right to you. Consciously release the energy of winter.

3. Set an intention
Write down one word or sentence that represents what you wish to grow this year. Not something you have to achieve, but something that wants to be born.

4. Close in silence
Place the paper near the candle or in a place that is meaningful to you. Then let it go. Trust the process. Growth follows its own rhythm.

This time does not ask for urgency.
Only for attention.

Spring is already working beneath the surface.
And so are you. ✨

Inspired by:

https://nl.wikipedia.org/wiki/Imbolc

https://castlefest.nl/nl/nieuws/vana-grimoire-imbolc

https://www.beleven.org/feest/imbolc

globalheart.nl/spiritualiteit/wat-is-imbolc-hoe-het-te-vieren

The Life Phases on the Wheel of the Four Directions

The Wheel of the Four Directions – also known in shamanic traditions as the Medicine Wheel – is an ancient model that reflects the cycle of life. It symbolizes the rhythms of nature, the phases of human experience, and the ongoing movement between birth, growth, decay, and renewal.
The Wheel offers a framework for working with the physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual forces of life, helping us to find insight, wisdom, and healing.

In this text, I focus on the Wheel of Life Phases.


The North – The Source of Wisdom and Origin

Our life begins in the Northeast, which means we come from the North.
But what is this place exactly?

The North is the realm where all experiences – yours and those of all souls who have had the courage to enter the wheel of earthly existence – are gathered.
Here, everything that has been lived, felt, and learned crystallizes into wisdom.
It is the place where all personal identity dissolves and only pure essence remains.

The North is the realm of both the departed and the unborn souls – the place of our ancestors.
We come from there, and we return there when our earthly cycle is complete.

From a shamanic perspective, children come not from their parents, but from their ancestors.
Parents provide the biological process, but the soul itself is sent from the North.

Conception takes place in the Northeast.
Here true magic unfolds: a soul transforms from a non-physical to a physical state, from a formless, timeless, non-polar space into a tangible, material reality.
It is an extremely delicate transition. Even today, the beginning of life reminds us how fragile this process is – a mystery never to be taken for granted.

It is also in the Northeast that the baby is born.


The East – Childhood

The East represents the phase of childhood.
It is the direction of new beginnings – of innocence, curiosity, and wonder.
Here, the child lives in openness, exploring the world freely, eager to discover and experience.
Just as the morning sun illuminates the earth, so does the light of awareness awaken within the child.


The Southeast – The Threshold of Adulthood

The Southeast marks the transition toward adulthood.
Roughly between the ages of thirteen and twenty-two, profound changes take place.
The body develops rapidly, the brain matures, and hormones stir inner turbulence.
It is a period of growth but also of confusion, emotional instability, impulsiveness, and strong mood swings.

The adolescent longs to explore the outer world.
This stage is vulnerable: young people do not yet see clearly what is risky and what is not. Taking risks stimulates the brain’s reward system – when something goes well, the excitement encourages further risk-taking.
Statistically, mortality rates peak in this life phase.

The central task of adolescence is the search for identity.
At some point, the family of origin begins to feel restrictive. The young person rebels, pushing against boundaries and claiming independence.
Yet this is not true individuality: the young person moves merely from the family soul to the group soul.
Friend groups take the place of family, each with their own rules, values, and limits.

The need to belong continues into adulthood.
We form circles of peers, parents at school, communities, or professional networks.
Belonging to a group is deeply human – we are tribal beings who thrive in connection.
Within a group we feel safety and strength, though belonging also implies exclusion.
There can be no “we” without “they.”
The dominant value in this phase is often loyalty, sometimes at the expense of integrity.

Eventually, the adolescent steps into the world of adults – into the South.


The South – Adulthood and Fulfilment

The South is the direction of adulthood – of strength, realization, and manifestation.
Here we take on responsibility as mature human beings.
We build a life: a home, a family, a career, a community.
We care for others and contribute to the continuation of life.

The South is the time of action and creation – the moment to harvest what was sown in the East.
It is a period of doing, achieving, and shaping ideals into tangible reality.
In this phase, we take our rightful place in the world, standing fully in the light of day, with open eyes and willing hands.


The Southwest – The Transition Toward Elderhood

The Southwest is the gateway to the West – the time of reflection, evaluation, and release.
Children leave the nest. The body begins to change. Energy shifts, and vitality now requires more care and maintenance.

For women, hormonal changes can be abrupt, often accompanied by physical and emotional discomfort.
The body softens, the familiar contours alter.
For men, the process is more gradual – testosterone levels decline, and energy subtly transforms.
The risk of chronic illness increases; the body reminds us that nothing lasts forever.

On a social and personal level, this is a time of reflection.
We look back on the choices that have shaped our lives – in relationships, work, family, and inner development.
We learn to accept what is, and to find peace with how things have unfolded.

This reflection can bring restlessness, but also serenity.
As children leave home, some experience emptiness, while others rediscover freedom.
If we look back with kindness, this phase can awaken a sense of generativity – the wish to share wisdom, teach, and guide.
Attention shifts from the self to the next generation.


The West – Maturity and Release

The West is the direction of the setting sun.
It is the time of completion, harvest, release, and wisdom.
Here we recognize impermanence – that all things belong to a greater rhythm.

Those who have lived with an open heart can find peace in this phase.
There is room for gentleness, compassion, and a deep sense of connection.
The West invites integration – bringing together all that has been, allowing it to transform into something new.


The Northwest – Elderhood and Return

From the West, we move gradually toward the Northwest – the phase of elderhood.
We withdraw from the world of doing and turn toward being.
Life slows down, and simplicity becomes meaningful.

In this final stage, we look back upon our life.
If the journey has been good enough, a sense of integrity and wisdom emerges – not regret, but fulfillment; not struggle, but peace.

The Northwest prepares the way back to the North, where we return to the greater whole – completing the circle once more.


The Circle Completed

The Wheel of the Four Directions reminds us that everything moves, everything changes, and everything returns.
Each direction, each phase, carries its own wisdom and teaching.
By aligning ourselves with the rhythm of the Wheel, we come to recognize the natural flow of life – from beginning to end, from birth to return.

In understanding these cycles, we find not only insight but also peace:
the quiet knowing that nothing is ever lost – only transformed.

Honouring the Ancestors: The Thin Veil Between Worlds in Early November

Uit: Leerboek Familieopstellingen – Susanne Hazen

Introduction

As the days grow shorter and the air turns crisp, we enter a time of turning inward — a season when many cultures pause to remember those who came before us.
Across the world, early November carries a quiet mystery. It is said that during these days, the veil between the world of the living and the world of the dead grows thin, allowing us to sense the presence of our ancestors more closely.
From ancient Celtic Samhain to Mexico’s Día de los Muertos, this time invites us to honour the ones who walked before us — not in mourning, but in gratitude and celebration.


Ancestors hold a vital place in both Family Constellations and Systemic Ritual. Within these approaches, they are regarded as present and alive—not in our everyday reality, but in another dimension.
That is why both methods call for respect and awareness; they are not practices to take lightly.

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When the Veil Grows Thin

It is said that around the beginning of November, the veil between the world of the living and the world of the dead becomes at its thinnest.
During this time, contact with the “Otherworld” — the realm of ancestors, gods, saints, and spirits — is believed to come most easily.

Throughout history, myths and cultures have recognised this liminal moment. The Celts and Germanic tribes celebrated Samhain, while elsewhere people marked Halloween, All Saints’ Day (November 1st), All Souls’ Day (November 2nd), and Mexico’s Día de los Muertos.
Each carries the same essence: to remember and honour those who have passed.


Samhain – The Celtic New Year

For the ancient Celts and Germanic peoples, Samhain marked both the start of winter and the beginning of a new year. Traditionally beginning at sunset on October 31st and lasting three days, it was a time when the veil between worlds was believed to grow paper-thin.

The dead were thought to return among the living. Families lit fires outdoors and hearths within, laid places at the table for their ancestors, and offered food both at the altar and outside for wandering spirits.

Despite its connection with death, Samhain was far from sombre—it was a joyful celebration of life, filled with laughter, music, and feasting.
The ancestors were welcomed, honoured, and consulted, receiving gifts and offerings. It was a way to stay connected, to give them their rightful place, and to transform grief into gratitude.

Samhain was also a harvest and thanksgiving festival, marking the close of the agricultural year. The gathered crops were stored, and livestock was either sheltered or sacrificed in thanks to the gods, nature spirits, and ancestors.


From Samhain to Halloween

When Irish and Scottish immigrants brought their Samhain traditions to North America in the 19th century, these evolved into Halloween — All Hallow’s Eve.
Today it’s celebrated widely across the U.S., Canada, and Europe, though its deeper meaning is often forgotten, replaced by the lighthearted fun of trick-or-treating.


All Saints’ Day and All Souls’ Day

All Saints’ Day, on November 1st, is a Christian feast day. On this day, the Roman Catholic Church honours and venerates all saints.
All Souls’ Day, on November 2nd, is dedicated to remembering all the departed.
Until the early 7th century, these Christian feasts were celebrated in May.
However, in the Netherlands, the first Wednesday of November was also once a festive day — a harvest thanksgiving, originally a pagan celebration.
To help the people accept Christianity more readily, the Church moved All Saints’ Day and All Souls’ Day to November 1st.
As a result, the ancient folk traditions merged with the Christian ones, blending older customs with the new faith.


Día de los Muertos – The Day of the Dead

In Mexico and parts of Latin America, early November brings the vibrant Día de los Muertos, a three-day festival rooted in ancient indigenous traditions.

Like Samhain, it is a joyful remembrance rather than a mourning. Families build altars for their loved ones, decorating them with food, drinks, and gifts.
Cemeteries come alive with colour and sound—people sing, eat, and dance among the graves, celebrating the continuity of life beyond death.

Originally held in early August, the festival was moved to November under Catholic influence, aligning with All Saints’ and All Souls’ Days.


Closing Reflection

Across cultures and centuries, early November invites us to turn toward our ancestors—not with fear or sorrow, but with gratitude and celebration.
In doing so, we honour the roots from which we come and keep alive the unseen threads that connect us all.

You are part of a larger story

By Susanne Hazen, author Leerboek Familieopstellingen

Sometimes we feel disconnected, as if we have no anchor. As if we have to figure it all out on our own.

But what if you’re connected to something much larger?

Ancestor work reminds us of this: you are the result of thousands of lives that have come before you. People who made mistakes, who loved, lost, fought, and hoped. And people who may never have been able to finish their lives.

When we connect with this line, we often experience a profound sense of peace. As if we fall back into place. As if life no longer starts “from scratch” but is carried.

In workshops, we work with constellations, rituals, and stories. We create space for the knowledge stored in your body. We practice listening to the voices that express themselves through feelings, images, or movements.

Because when you know where you come from, you also know better where you can go.

And, as Daniel Foor says, when we reconcile with our ancestors—even those who brought pain—we restore not only our own lineage but also a piece of the greater whole.

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Children’s Intergenerational Knowledge

By Susanne Hazen, author Leerboek Familieopstellingen

Children often know more than you think. They sense indescribable things. They sometimes dream things that no one has told them.

Research indicates that children with a strong understanding of their family—such as knowing who their grandmother was, where their grandfather came from, and what happened during the war—score higher in resilience, self-esteem, and social skills.

Why?

Because they are part of a larger story. They feel connected. They have an inner anchor.

The concept of “intergenerational self” is not vague. It is a supportive foundation, especially in times of change or loss. When children lack access to their family’s story, they become isolated more quickly. But when they know who they are—including who created them—solidity arises.

Ancestor work, therefore, isn’t just for adults. It’s also for those who come after us.

When we heal what has been passed down to us, we pass on something else.

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